This has been the year to break up with Perfect once and for all.
Today’s devotion is just a glimpse of the love affair I’ve carried on with Perfect. Remember your teen years when you realized the boyfriend you just had to have wasn’t good for you at all? It took me far too long, but over the years I’ve had a dawning realization that my perfectionism wasn’t creating something good. It was holding me back.
Last Friday night, hubby and I went out to eat with friends. Afterward, we went back to their house, and they suggested something that would have made me break out in hives before. They wanted us all to play pool.
Before I broke up with Perfect, I would have made an excuse. Protested I couldn’t really. Been a spoil-sport. I hated doing things I wasn’t good at (re. anything athletic or requiring coordination of any kind) because then others would get a glimpse of the deeply flawed me. The un-shiny me. The human me.
Mercy–me, me, me.
I’ve decided to put that kind of behavior behind, though, so I played pool. I stunk, but I had a blast! Here was the big surprise. Nobody judged me. Nobody looked down on me. Instead, they cheered when I sunk a few balls. They laughed at my happy dance when I used the “bridge” for the first time even though I missed the ball I was aiming for. They agreed that I “blocked a shot” (HA!) when I actually missed the hole.
What had I been so afraid of?
I experienced so much joy Friday night. Because I played pool?
I experienced joy because in breaking up with perfect, I’ve stepped more fully into a realization of my Father’s love for me. I’m not so focused on myself and how others perceive me. Instead, I’m focused on the full acceptance and love my Father has for me.
In John 15, Jesus says this following a verse about living in our Father’s love. “ I have told you this so that my joy may be in you and that your joy may be complete.” John 15:11 (NIV 2011. Italics added)
No more focusing on the externals while our insides go unattended.
No more missing out because we might show our flaws to the world.
Let’s do it. Let’s live in our Father’s love. Let’s asked to be filled with His joy. Let’s break up with Perfect so that His joy would be complete in us.
Today, if you’d like to enter to win a copy of Wendy Blight’s wonderful Bible study Living So That: Making Faith-Filled Choices in the Midst of a Messy Life, leave a comment. I’d love to hear your story of breaking up with perfect, or if you’re living life on the fly today, just simply comment, “I’m breaking up with perfect.”
Note: Amy’s first book, Breaking Up with Perfect, will be released July 7th. She can’t wait to share more stories from her journey to leave perfectionism behind.