Can’t You Hurry Up, God?

I want you to think about your friend. The friend who you know you can trust to love every part of you while telling you the whole truth. The friend who you’d trust with your life because you know she has your best interests at heart.

Lynn Cowell is one of those friends in my life. She’s a trusted friend, so I can’t wait to introduce you to her today.  Make sure to read to the end where there will be a way to enter to win a great package including her new book Make Your Move. Please welcome Lynn!


The whole situation didn’t make sense. The job description fit me perfectly. And I just knew God had made me aware of that opportunity so I could move forward in my heart for ministry. Yet all the doors closed, and I couldn’t figure out why.

Weeks turned into years as the quicksand of discouragement pulled me under. I felt forgotten, and I often looked back on that lost opportunity with regret. Maybe there was something more I could have done to make it work? Why didn’t I try harder?

Time went on, and I was no closer to my dreams. I couldn’t understand why God kept me from that perfect position.

In the Bible, we learn that Sarai, Abram’s wife, was stuck too. God had promised them offspring – as many as the stars in the heavens (Genesis 15:5) – yet time was ticking. Sarai was growing older and worried she had yet to have a child.

Sarai may have believed she’d become invisible to God, and it was time to take matters into her own hands. She decided she wouldn’t wait any longer, so she devised a plan to get what she wanted.

And she got it, alright – a pregnancy plus a whole lot of trouble.

Sarai followed a common practice of her time and gave Hagar, her Egyptian slave, to Abram to become a surrogate mother. But her plan backfired. Hagar became pregnant and also a little haughty. With another person looking down on her barrenness, Sarai was more miserable than before.

If only she would have waited instead of manipulated.

Like Sarai, I had a hard time waiting on God. I couldn’t understand what was taking Him so long! Yet, when the perfect position opened down the road from my home, instead of a 1,000 miles away, like the other job, it all made sense.

So often now as I take my short drive to the office, I find myself very thankful I waited for God to provide.

If we can wait and not manipulate, God promises us He is always at work for our good (Romans 8:28). Even when the situation seems to be going the wrong way, we can trust that His way is best. We must be prayerful, wait and trust. Easier said than done, though, I know.

Yet when we wait and see God’s goodness come to past, we create a history with God, a repertoire of faith moments when we have seen God’s faithfulness. This foundation builds our faith in Him so we know we can trust Him again and again.

These stories, these faith-building encounters with God, are the same stories I share with my kids, helping them to trust God with their dreams for the future as well. Helping them also learn to wait and not manipulate.

Today, thank God for the times you have seen His faithfulness. If you are in a current struggle, pray for the patience to wait and not manipulate.


Lynn is giving away a Make Your Move Bible study book and DVD bundle to one of you! Let us know below of an area in your life you are asking God to “hurry up”. Comment by Wednesday, December 6 for a chance to win. (U.S. addresses only please.)

In Make Your Move, Lynn Cowell explores how confidence-in-question keeps us from boldly experiencing what God intends for our lives. Learn more about her new women’s Bible study, encouraging you to dig into God’s Word to find confidence and boldness to do great things here:

Lynn Cowell is a national conference speaker who is passionate about helping women of all ages understand the importance of Christ confidence. She is the author of several books including her newest study for women, Make Your Move: Finding Unshakable Confidence Despite Your Fears and Failures, and Brave Beauty: Finding the Fearless You , just for girls ages 8 – 12. Lynn and her husband, Greg, have been married for over 30 years and are the parents of three young adults. They enjoy spending time together, especially when it combines the mountains, well-worn sweatshirts, and anything with chocolate and peanut butter. Connect with Lynn today at


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Better Together Giveaway

Watching you register for our study is stoking my excitement to a fevered pitch about the Breaking Up with Perfect online study that starts August 1st!! (If you’re just visiting today and don’t know about our study, please click here for all the details.)

In fact, as I’ve watched the registrations roll in, I’ve thought, “This is big. We’re not just a few girls breaking up with perfect. We’re a movement!” 

Just think about that powerful stuff…. We’re building a movement!

All growth and change is good, but it’s always strengthened when you do it with a friend. Here’s your chance to grow our movement and to add to the joy of completing this study by doing it with a friend. We’re better together.

Today– for 48 hours only– leave a comment on my Facebook post (you’ll know the one because it’s an invitation) that’s pinned to the top of my page, and tag a friend (or two, or three) inviting them to join you in our study. Not only will you build our movement, your tagged comment will enter you for a fun & fabulous package. Take a look at these goodies:


(I had to pry those adorable Moon & Lola earrings out of my own clenched hand to give them away. Just sayin’.)

So here’s how you enter:

  • Click here to go to my Facebook page.
  • Leave a comment under the pinned invitation to the study at the top of the page with…
  • Your invited friend(s) tagged in the comment.

Voila! Once you do those steps, you’re entered! I’ll choose and post a winner on Wednesday morning at 7:00 am.

Hands together, team. One… two… three… BUILD A MOVEMENT!

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The Perfect Life

I’m delighted to be guest posting over at Katy McCown’s blog today. Katy is the newest member of the Proverbs 31 Ministries writing team and also wife to Luke McCown, quarterback for the New Orleans Saints. Her life is quite the adventure, and she has so much wisdom to share!

Please click here to visit Katy’s blog and leave a comment to encourage her and for a chance to win a copy of my book, Breaking Up with Perfect.

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Happy 2016!

Here’s a picture to match my thousand words. 😉

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I have a New Year’s gift for you before we go! (…Followed by 2 announcements. Don’t miss those!) I’ve done some editing on the Leader’s Guide for Breaking Up with Perfectand I’m excited to share it with you. It is available FREE for a limited time. 

Through February 6th, you can find the Leader’s Guide on this page and download it for free. Starting next week, I will be posting video Tips for Teachers on the blog for those of you who are using the book in your small group.

After February 6th, the guide along with the videos will go on sale, so take advantage of the freebies while they last. 🙂

Announcement #1:

For my Wake County, NC friends… Carol Byrd and I will be leading a small group through Breaking Up with Perfect  at Apex Baptist Church starting Sunday, January 10th from 5:00-6:30.  You are welcome to come, and we sure would love the time with you! Here’s the link to registration (and a picture to prove I’m getting ready):  **If you already have the book, there’s no cost.buwp planning

Announcement #2:

The winner of the Grand-Prize from the photo contest is missrachel_lynn00! Congratulations, Rachel! I’ve sent you a message, so email me your address at [email protected] for me to send your prize on its way.

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Set People Free

I’d like to introduce you to my friend Patricia Holbrook, our guest blogger today. We met at She Speaks two years ago and instantly bonded. Little did we know that we’d be due with “twin books” this year! Her original release date for Twelve Inches was the same day as mine, but she’s been waiting patiently for a slightly late birth just yesterday. I got to read her book ahead of release, and it’s wonderful. Make sure to leave a comment for a chance to win a copy!

(Excerpt from Twelve Inches by Patricia Holbrook)

I was resting in bed upstairs as I recovered from a major surgery. My children’s laughter reached the bedroom and woke me up. They were giggling of excitement as grandma once again came up with a new, creative way to play with them.

I smiled and uttered a prayer of thanksgiving for my mom. Once again, this loving woman had dropped everything in her life and  had flown 6,000 miles to take care of me and my family in a time of need. Regardless of distance, time or cost, I know that as long as God gives her breath, I can always count on my mom.

My mind goes back in time and I remember our relationship as I grew up. As many women of her day, mom had to work five days a week and sometimes on the weekends to help the family budget; therefore she was not very involved in our day-to-day activities. During the teenage years, as my parents’ relationship became stormy, we were all victims in the consequences of a broken marriage. Hormones and anger made my young mind shut down to any common sense. The hurt of seeing my parents growing apart blinded any attempt to understand my mother and so our relationship became distant and shaky.

As we both struggled with our individual crisis, we hurt each other deeply. As in many other mother-daughter situations that I have known, there was pain, misunderstanding and incompatibility for far too many years.

Today, however, in spite of anything in the past, I can honestly say that Mom is a best friend. I long to see her and spend time with her. I love to hear her voice when I dial her number. And even though our personalities are pretty different and we don’t always agree, our love and longing to be together grows deeper with each passing year.

Our secret?

We set each other free.

We can’t help but grow old, but we have to choose to grow wiser.

As a grown woman, I started to understand her longings, sorrows and disappointments. I often made myself put on her shoes to imagine her experiences.

When I became a Christian at 25, I realized for the first time that no one is worthy of forgiveness; however that is exactly what Christ offers to anyone who will ask. I also came to realize that true love never withholds forgiveness and that we cannot expect to be forgiven if we don’t forgive others. This former Catholic school girl knew all too well the words of the Lord’s Prayer in Luke 11: “And forgive us our sins, as we forgive those who sin against us.”

I know several mothers and daughters who are wasting time and missing out an abundant life with each other because of unforgiveness. I know daughters who dread the thought of being around their mother and mothers whose daughter can never measure up to their expectations. I know mothers who compete with their daughters and daughters who will never agree with their moms, even when they are absolutely right. The same occurs in different relationships where trust and dreams are shattered . Without forgiveness there is no factual restoration. Without restoration, our future is bound to defeat. Heaven shuts down. Our Faith Bridge stays broken and therefore nonfunctional.

As we stand in a position of self-righteousness, holding on to thirty year old grudges, we fail to realize that we are the ones held in bondage. Even if the person who wronged you has a hardened heart and continually hurts you, do yourself a favor: Set them free! Ask God to help you forgive them and pray for them. Extend the same forgiveness that you so long to receive from those you hurt.

I cannot remember exactly when it started, but somewhere along life’s way, I started to choose to love my mom for whom she is. I don’t try to change her and I don’t look back anymore. I look forward to the years we have ahead of us. No matter how many we have, I am choosing, one step at a time, to fully, abundantly enjoy each one.

Regardless of who hurt you, whether it was a parent, spouse or friend, forgiving is not easy. Actually, I believe it’s quite impossible without God. But with His help, you can.

Have you tried asking Him to help you overcome?

“With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.” Matthew 19:26

418ZAZHGN5L._SX322_BO1,204,203,200_This devotional is an excerpt from Patricia’s newly released book Twelve Inches – Bridging the Gap between what you know about God and how your feel. Today we’re giving away a copy to one of our readers. Leave a comment to enter, or if you are in a hurry, simply say “I’m bridging the gap!” in the comments section. For more information on the book and to read some of the endorsements, click HERE

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A Little Breather

Whew! Following getting home from a long-awaited family vacation on Tuesday, we’ve got two days to pack Nolan, our youngest son, for his freshman year at Appalachian State University in Boone, NC. Could I ask for your prayers as we get both our young men off to college and come back to a very quiet house?

If you’ve done this before, you know there’s a huge cauldron of emotions bubbling around!

So this is week is a breather post just to announce the winner from last week. 🙂 The winner of a copy of Breaking Up with Perfect is Candyce who left her comment on 8/07/15 at 10:11 am. Congratulations, Candyce! I just sent you an email, and when you reply with your mailing address, I’ll pop it right into the mailbox.

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“Perfection” Interrupted

Walking through Target one evening last week, I saw a sight that stopped me in my tracks. A tiny girl with sparkling eyes and dark bobbed hair smiled up at her daddy as he held her hands, helping her walk on his feet as he made his way down the aisle.

The little girl’s feet kept slipping off her daddy’s, so it wasn’t a perfect walk. Yet it was beautiful. Joy shone from the two as they in moved imperfect tandem. She looked at him with her ear-to-ear grin and complete trust in her eyes. He gazed back at her delight-filled and confident in the knowledge that his strength would keep her from falling.

It was captivating to watch.

The duo brought one of my favorite scriptures about our Father God to mind:

It was I who taught Ephraim to walk,
    taking them by the arms;
but they did not realize
    it was I who healed them.
I led them with cords of human kindness,
    with ties of love.
To them I was like one who lifts
    a little child to the cheek,
    and I bent down to feed them. (Hosea 11:3-4)

Our Father is holding our hands, watching our progress with loving delight. His joy isn’t diminished by the imperfection of our steps. We’re learning, and He’s there to catch us. He deals with His children tenderly.

Like today’s devotion shares, we can become so entrenched in our own ideas of perfection that we forget to enjoy simply walking daily with my Father. Like a toddler, we internally stomp our feet and declare, “I do it myself!” Instead of holding our Father’s hands and trusting in His strength and direction, we so often try to make our own way.

But when we do, we miss it. We miss the joy of walking with Him. Instead, let’s see our own imperfections as an opportunity to grab God’s hands, lean into His strength, and trust Him for the next step.

To enter to win a free copy of Breaking Up with Perfect, leave a comment here or simply say, “I’m breaking up with perfect!”

**Note to Evelyn Shipman: You are the winner of the book and “We’re created for connecting not collecting” sign. Yay! I sent you an email asking for your mailing address, so please check your spam folder and reply. 🙂 I’ll pop them into the mail asap!

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