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Three Practices to Prepare for Christmas Love– Part 2

Last week I started a series to walk through three practices that prepare us for Christmas love in the midst of hard moments. If you missed it, you can read Part 1 here.

Practice #2– Fast & Pray

Last January, I started preparing our moms for new traditions this year. Barry and I have an empty nest now, and our siblings have grown children too. As the family grows and ages, it’s harder and harder to get everyone together. I’ll bet lots you you have experienced this!

In September, my wonderful M-I-L, Barbara, reached out to discuss Thanksgiving plans, and I carefully pitched a new schedule to her. “How would you feel about having Thanksgiving at my house this year?” I asked gently. She’s been the hostess with the mostess for all our married years, and I thought she might be sad about giving it up.

You can imagine my delight and surprise when she said, “Sure! I have some people I’d like to include. Is that ok with you?”

(Note: Don’t make assumptions about other people’s reactions. I think Barbara might have been waiting for me to step up for years. Lol!)

Prepare Ahead

I was excited about having 13 people coming to dinner in our little house, but I was apprehensive too. That was going to be a lot of strong personalities, varying opinions, and conflicting political views in one place. We were going to literally have too many cooks in my one-butt kitchen!

Thankfully, I had been studying Esther, so I had her practices to prepare. When Esther finally saw the necessity of her risk in saving her people in chapter 4, she sent this reply to Mordecai,  “’Go, gather together all the Jews who are in Susa, and fast for me. Do not eat or drink for three days, night or day. I and my attendants will fast as you do. When this is done, I will go to the king, even though it is against the law. And if I perish, I perish.’” (Esther 4:15-16 NIV)

Esther gives us three practices to prepare for potentially perilous interactions:

  1. Gather like-minded people. Esther didn’t try to face her trial alone. Instead, she relied on her community. When we’re facing something difficult, let’s share with others who will pray with us instead of going solo.
  2. Fast. Fasting to seek direction or power is an often-overlooked tool that God has given us. Although prayer isn’t mentioned here, prayer and fasting are almost always coupled in Scripture. Make sure to choose a day now with no parties so that you can set yourself up to finish your fast, whatever the length that you’ve prayerfully chosen.
  3. Pre-decide your outcome. “You can’t control anyone else. You can only control yourself,” is frequently repeated because it’s oh so true. On Thanksgiving Day, Barry and I prayed that we would walk in the Spirit, not our own flesh. I prayed that I would be unoffendable since I can tend toward overly-sensitive. We asked God to let love cover a multitude of sins. (I Peter 4:8) We prayed that all of the believers in the house would operate in the gifts of the Spirit. It was powerful for me to acknowledge my weaknesses before God and to pre-decide that I would walk in His power that day.

Practice in the Moment

With preparation, we lessen the need to work in the moment or to struggle to contain ourselves. One blessing of following God and surrendering our will to His is the ability to move peacefully in the Spirit even in difficult situations.

I’ve even shocked myself by typing that paragraph. I’m such a do-er. I’m still such a reforming-perfectionist, but I’m learning that the work is the Lord’s. Taking steps of preparation helps me to move in His endless power instead of the limits of my own.

What kind of heart-prep will you do this week? Will you join me in choosing a day between now and Christmas to fast for love to flow in our gatherings? Let me know so that I can be praying for you.

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  1. holly decherd says:

    All inspiring for a granny “do-er” Christian. Thanks!

  2. Amy – thank you for making the connection between the wisdom Esther lived with the wisdom I need right now as well!

    1. Amy Carroll says:

      I’m learning as I’m processing through writing. 🙂 Thanks for your encouragement, friend!

  3. Angie Ligon says:

    I’ve read a lot about fasting and praying lately. Please share with us what that looks like? I’m sure I’m not the only one who isn’t sure how to go about a biblical fast. Thank you so much for your continued encouragement & support.

    1. Amy Carroll says:

      Angie, I’m so glad you asked! From what I’ve learned, fasting is giving up something that makes room for God. I don’t think we always have to fast food, but in my experiences, my most powerful fasts have been from food. Maybe it’s because of the hold food has in my life. Lol!

      The weakness that comes from fasting leaves space for God’s strength and power. Jesus said that only some things can be changed through fasting. (Mark 9:29)

      Isaiah 58 has the most thorough description of fasting. It teaches us to fast in humility and privacy, not making a show of our fasting.

      I don’t pretend to understand fasting completely, but I’m coming to realize that it’s a tool that God gives us that I’ve too often neglected. I’m trying to be sensitive to God’s voice as to when I need to fast.

      Merry Christmas to you, Angie!