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Lies, Half-Truths, and Truth that Sets Us Free

There are some friends so dear that you can’t wait to connect them! My precious friend Suzie Eller is someone I’m over-the-moon excited to introduce to you.

Suzie is both funny and wise which is a winning combination in my book, and she’s written a book that will rock your world. The Spirit-Led Heart: Living a Life of Love and Faith without Borders is about the gift that so many of us have missed. It breaks my heart how controversial the topic of the Holy Spirit has become, dividing denominations instead of uniting God’s people. Suzie takes a Biblical approach that will leave you empowered with all that the Spirit has to offer.

Please welcome Suzie to the blog today! (And don’t miss an opportunity at the end to read two free chapters as well as to win a copy of the book.)


My friend and I sat on the curb, sweaty after a long walk. For the past few days, we had been studying Romans 8. As we walked, she spoke out loud the words in Romans 8:38-39.

Nothing can separate you from God’s love. 

Then it became personal.

Wait, nothing can separate me from God’s love.

These were words that, until that moment, felt like they were for everyone else. Have you ever had a moment when truth is suddenly clear? You’ve tried to figure it out on your own, perhaps for years. It feels as though everybody else “gets it” except for you. That’s how my friend felt until the message in Romans 8 leaped from the pages and settled into her spiritual DNA.

Why did she believe it?

The reason that any of us fall for a lie is that it feels true.

For my friend, a lie had led to an assumption, which become a belief, which produced actions (or inactions) that impacted her life and identity.

This is one lie we often believe.

You can never change.

Maybe an adult spoke that over you. Maybe you started to believe that lie because you tried to change, and it didn’t work. Perhaps that one mistake still haunts you, even though you have changed.

So you begin to tell yourself: This is just who I am. That’s the assumption. It settles into your identity as truth. You hear scripture that tells how much God loves you, and you point out all the ways you don’t deserve it. You try to do everything well, but you make a mistake so you beat yourself up. Or maybe you just give up entirely.

How do we counter these lies?

We counter them with truth. The lie might be, “You can never change,” but this is the truth:

We are free to be exactly who God says we can be.

When I was younger, I didn’t let women get too close. If I was in a grocery store and saw someone I knew, I’d make a beeline for the dog food aisle, hoping they’d go the other way.


Because of a lie.

The lie was that I didn’t have a lot to offer. I didn’t have anything important to say. I worried that I’d say something goofy. I was shy. I was introverted. . .  the list of my beliefs was long.

Some of these held some truth. I was a little shy. I am an introvert. I might even say something goofy (that can still happen). The problem is that I had accepted the lie that I didn’t have anything of value to add to a friendship. That somehow I was “less than.”

The truth is I am free to be who God made me to be. Sometimes shy. Mostly introverted. But also a really great friend. Loyal. Fun (that’s the goofy part). As I confronted the lies and assumptions with truth, my belief system shifted and so did my actions.

The words I spoke over my own heart changed. As I accepted me, I was able to accept others as sweet friends, because the truth is we all have quirks or differences, and we all have strengths. There is no perfect friend, or perfect woman.

What is that half-truth or outright lie that has weighed you down?

Ask God to help you recognize it. Confront it with truth. As you do, it will begin to shift the way you think, which shifts the way you live, for when you know the truth, you are free to live the truth.

Suzie Eller

Suzanne (Suzie) Eller is a Proverbs 31 Ministries writer, a bestselling author, speaker, and blogger. Suzie has written a new book, The Spirit-Led Heart: Living a Life of Love and Faith Without Borders. This book shares that we have a Helper. We have what we need to live with a Spirit-led heart.



The Giveaway

Today we have a treat! Bethany House and Suzie are giving away a copy of The Spirit Led Heart. To enter, simply leave a comment sharing a truth that you’ve used to combat a lie or say “The Holy Spirit leads me to truth!”

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  1. The Holy Spirit leads me to truth! I desperately need the Holy Spirit’s help!

  2. The Holy Spirit leads me to truth!

  3. Leslie Ramey says:

    You just described me, everything you have felt I struggle with. I did an amazing intensive bible study this year and I am grasping on a deeper level how much Jesus loves me I remind myself that I am worthy and loved. I desire Christian friendships but I feel invisible often even amongst Christian sisters. I keep reminding myself that Christ loves me and that I am fearfully and wonderfully made. I pray in social situations that God will help me to e a blessing and show his love to someone who feels insecure too.

  4. The lie I believe is partially true. I’m not enough. But I don’t need to be enough because Christ in me is more than enough.

  5. The Holy Spirit leads me to truth. His grace is sufficient for me.

  6. The Holy Spirit leads me to truth! Definitely a process but with God’s help it is happening.

  7. Ellena Armstrong says:

    the Holy Spirit leads me to truth

  8. Vickie Davenport says:

    The Holy Spirit leads me in truth.

  9. I can do all things thru Christ. Philippians 4:13. I would love this book. God is my strength. Thank you.

  10. Nancy Silvers says:

    Oh Suzie the lies I have believed in my past, sadly even my recent past. God is exploding those lies and replacing them with His truth, truth that was always there but I failed to grasp. Thank you, Suzie, for your faithfulness in following your calling and your transparency, I can truly say “me too” and be set free.

  11. Thank you, Suzie and Amy! I’m an introvert and long to be more outgoing and social. I become very comfortable when the attention is on me. I don’t even like to talk in groups larger than 6-8 people! I feel intimidated and don’t have anything relevant to say. I would love a copy of your new book!

  12. The Holy Spirit leads me to the TRUTH!

  13. The Holy Spirit is my helper, and sustainer – He has led me into all truth by the written word of God and brought these dead, dry bones to life in Jesus! Praise be to God my heavenly Father!

  14. Donna Holbrook says:

    I still have the doubts about be worthy of a good friend. I still worry about what will come out of my mouth. I have nothing useful to say. It is difficult to make friends at my age especially at a church that already have groups that have been friends a very long time. I am still a loner.

  15. Elaine Tomasello says:

    This really spoke to me. I am shy & introverted. I have been all of my life. I also have social phobia. I don’t like being in crowds. I feel alone in a crowded room like nobody even notices that I am there. I love the last line, “when you know the truth, you are free to live the truth”. I want to be FREE to LIVE the TRUTH! Thank you & God bless you!

  16. I am sufficient (enough) in Christ’s sufficiency.

  17. Beverly Williams says:

    Everything necessary for life and godliness is available to me through the finished work of Jesus Christ. According to 2 Peter 1:3-4

  18. Debby Boone says:

    The Holy Spirit leads us all to the Truth.

  19. Leiann Kapperman says:

    I NEED the Holy Spirit to lead me to truth !! Thank you!

  20. The Holy Spirit leads ME to truth! Thank You Jesus!

  21. Jennifer O'Brien says:

    The Holy Spirit leads me to the truth!

  22. The Holy Spirit leads me to truth!

  23. “The Holy Spirit leads me to truth””!”

  24. The Holy Spirit set me free from believing the lie that no one wanted me – not my parents, my husband or friends. And not God. When I realized what a huge lie that was, I was able to break free of all the insecurities that lie brought with it and live a life open to the love of God, my parents, my new husband, friends. I am now able to show the love of God to everyone whose path I cross.

  25. Lynn Colquhoun says:

    Could relate to all that was shared. Excited to download chapters.