In today’s devotion I talked about the power of one woman. YOU can be that one woman by finding one woman to pour your life into! By passing on the Life Jesus has given to you, you can become part of God’s eternal story. Your story won’t end with you. It will outlast you–super-charged.
Sounds inspiring, right? It seems like more of us would invest in others if the results are that amazing, but I think there’s a huge obstacle.
Let’s break it down a little to make it less intimidating. Titus 2:3-5 has been one of my favorite verses for a long time because I’ve had women who have helped me in every category. Here’s what it says,
“Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.” (Titus 2:3-5 NIV)
I’ve had older women do each of these, so let me give you a little picture:
- “Love their husbands”–Without even knowing I was observing her, Deborah modeled this for me. I had been told that she made a commitment never to speak negatively of her husband. I was skeptical, so I started to watch. Sure enough. In our groups, she always spoke highly of her husband, and I could see the fruit. Although they had elementary-middle school aged kids, the two of them acted like newly weds. Their love for each other was pure and evident.
- “And children”– My friend Macon would invite me over occasionally for lunch while her kids were growing and before I had any. I watched her lovingly care for her children, instill God’s Word in them, and discipline them firmly yet with grace. She set a standard for me that I wanted to replicate in my own family.
- “To be self-controlled”— My mouth has always been responsible for lots of my troubles. It’s a struggle for me to control my words, and for a long time I didn’t even think it was important. Mona, a formal mentor when I was leading women’s ministry, lived so differently than I did. She thought about each word she said, measuring it against scripture. She was slow to speak, and wisdom was the hallmark of her life. Through studying the way she lived, I’ve learned discretion and self-control in my speaking. (Most of the time! I’m still in process, and I still struggle here!)
- “Pure”– Layne, my friend I talked about in today’s devotion, modeled purity for my teen-aged self right at the time I was making important decisions about my sexuality. I’m so thankful for the time she lived in my backyard, because I was on the path to some devastating choices.
- “To be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands”– My mother covered these three beautifully. If any of her friends were asked what she’s known for, I would guess that they’d say her kindness, her well-run home, and her loving relationship with my dad. Mamas, don’t underestimate the power you have in your children’s lives. My mom has been my main influence, and she’s my One Woman of all women!
I wanted to paint these pictures for you so that you can see that you DO have something to pass on. Some mentoring is formal while some is living life beside each other. Some is of a theological/teaching nature while some is very practical. Much of it is purely relational.
As a way to encourage you to look for your One Woman, I have a special giveaway today. I’ve included a variety books from my friends so that you’ll have a choice of one to walk through with your One Woman.
Come with Me by Suzie Eller
In This House We Will Giggle by Courtney DeFeo
It’s Good to Be Queen by Liz Curtis Higgs
5 Habits of a Woman Who Doesn’t Quit by Nick Koziarz
Breaking Up with Perfect by Amy Carroll
This is quite a package, so please enter today to win! To enter, leave a comment, or if you’re living life on the fly, simply leave a comment saying, “I’m passing on what I’ve been given.”